Karla's Stance Part 3.2

Howdy, Yall!

I also, wanted to mention that it is a good idea for the man to get to know the young lady's father, I mean wouldn't the man want to know what kind of family that he was marrying into or rather what kind of father in law he was"marrying"? You marry the lady you in a sense marry the family. You get a whole new family. Also, the man ought to consider the fact that the father might want to know what kind of man is interested in marrying his daughter and whether he approved or not. The father ought to be allowed to observe him. Really, I suppose it depends on the father or if there even is one.I also should point out that the man shouldn't be pushy, arrogant, cocky, thinks himself something(thinks highly of himself), or thinks he knows more than the father or "try" to help him with the BIble especially since the father is older and a christian. He should be humble and be respectful. (Seriously, if he can't be respectful and not be pushy and has all the bad traits above that I listed, I can only imagine how he will be when he gets married! That is definitely not good.) He should get to know the father at the father's own pace (as the Lord leads) since it's the father who is the protector of his daughter and the father is the one who I guess you can say "calls the shots" as to when the Lord speaks to him about this young man. Since, the father is to make sure his daughter's heart and emotions are to protected in case the man isn't the Lord's will for his daughter. It's not enough for the man to think or believe she's the one, the father must hear from the Lord on this matter, too.

But, what tends to happen is that the man will go around the dad and get to know the daughter and then the dad. Or they bypass the dad altogether. Or they'd rather get to know the daughter than the dad so they constantly ask the dad if he can talk to the daughter...sad...sad...sad! Trust me I have had them do that...good way to instantly cross them off the list:) Truth is is it shows their true character. Character that is not gentlemanly by any sense because a true gentleman will do things the right and proper way and if he's a christian hopefully the biblical way.