Karla's Stance part 5.3

This is to finish the part on the husband.

I forgot to mention that I believe that when a woman is to go to court that her husband is to go in her place. He is her head and her covering so he is to stand in her place in things like this. I've heard a story before where the wife for some reason got a ticket on the road and the husband went to appear in court. When they called her name he said here I am. At one time things were like that and I am like that today. I don't care what the trend is or how society does things. I care about what is right and what is biblical. If the man is the woman's covering then it's his duty to defend her and take her place in situations like this.

Another thing the husband should be willing to die for her as Christ did for the church, for us. He shouldn't want any harm to come to her. SHE is to be treated like the weaker vessel...Not a china doll. A woman should be hardy but not masculine. She doesn't need to try to be as strong and tough as the man, either. She is just to what God created her the weaker vessel. There's nothing to be shameful of in being the weaker vessel. It's nice and separates us from men. So, like the Bible says treat her like the weaker vessel. Don't call her mean and hurtful names. Don't think it doesn't matter how you treat her because it does. It will scar her for the rest of her life and will not make her confident in anything she does for you or others. She will be more down trodden than not. A woman is like a rose if ya treat her right she will bloom!!! Seriously, that is quite true. She can't respect you if you treat her badly.


If yall remember I spoke on how God created man to work with his hands. Man is made for labour. It's not bad. A man should seek to work with his hands other wise he will get lazy and want the easy work. I believe it is good to know how to work on vehicles, build things,etc. I mean seriously, you know how bad it'd look if you diddn't know how to work on cars but your wife could change the oil, check tire pressure, air the tires, change the spark plugs and maybe the wheel? I myself haven't had the chance to change spark plugs, yet nor the tires but I am aiming to learn how to because ya never know if a man might not be around and I'd be needing to take care of it. My Dad taught me how to change the oil and showed me how to check the tire pressure so that I could air the tires up if I needed to in our vehicle. It can be a little challenging trying to get the air filter off when changing the oil I must say but other than that changing the oil is super easy. Anyway, back in the day fathers used to teach their sons plumbing, electrical work, how to fix vehicles, etc. Today that is not what's being taught most of the time by fathers. I believe a man should try to learn all he can about these things. Good to know how to do these things himself. It will save some money, too. In learning these things the husband can teach his sons how to do these things. Men have too much of soft hands not used to any kind of labour and not enough of rough hands from labour. I am not saying the man's hands have to be so callused and real rough I am just saying he needs to be able or ready to do any kind of labour. He can use these different skills to also teach his sons learning lessons maybe incorporating character building into it and it's also another way to spend time with one another. You should want your sons hearts. The Bible says," Son give me thine heart." If you have his heart you then must work to keep it the same way with your wife and if you have daughters. There is no reason a child should stray http://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gifif his or her parents have their hearts especially the father's.

By the way, if you do treat your wife right, give her attention, and love then she won't look for it from any where else just like if she gives you the respect and admiration you crave then you won't look for it any where else. Notice, I didn't say that she gives you love because love is last for the man not the woman. Men are a bit different then women on that. Also, why should she want to do anything for a pig or monster? Another reason to treat her right. Thankfully, the Bible has spoken on how a husband is supposed to treat his wife which I already covered on the subject of marriage.
Here's a video clip: Go Home & Love Your Wife

The son or sons-

Sons ought to be trained to be a leader and a provider. To be trained to someday be a husband, and daddy. They ought to have godly character instilled in them. They ought to learn to build things and work with their hands. Their imaginations allowed to create things obviously you want to have the right and proper kind of imagination not one that is roaming wild and rebellious. They ought to be taught to protect their sisters and mothers. They ought to be taught manners and how to be a gentleman, as well. He should open doors for his sisters and his mother when Dad isn't around or able to open the door for them. He should be modest in the way he dresses, too. Why is it that men think it's okay to go around showing their legs??? Women look, too! There should not be a double standard in the home that a woman should be totally covered but the man can go out places in shorts. There are women who are just as bad as men when they see legs. If you don't think so then ya are mighty naive about women. Period!

Anyway, boys should never be left to themselves that's when they get themselves into trouble. They always need to be busy whether working with their hands or not their minds need to be engaged in something so they should be constantly learning something. They do not need to be destructive but productive. What they learn should be shared with others. They should be trained with a good work ethic. They should be discipline from a very early age in order to instill boundaries and obedience. The Bible has many verses on disciplining. The Lord gives his children "spankings" so why then would we undermine the Lord and disregard Scripture by not doing the same with our own children? Hebrews 22:6-8,For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.
If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?
But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.
Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?
For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness.
Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.

If you have them trained by the time they are 5 you shouldn't have to discipline them but rarely if at all. Notice that I never once called them kids...why is that? Because a kid is a goat not mankind. Mankind has children or a child not the other way around.

Here's what the Bible has to say on disciplining your children:

Pro 13:24, He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

Pro 19:18, Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.

Proverbs 22:15, Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Proverbs 23:14-15, Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

Proverbs 29:15,17, The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.


Here's a sermon by Steve Anderson. I in no way endorse all of what he preaches since I haven't listened to a lot of him and he is not biblically correct on salvation but he has a wonderful message on the Importance of Family. The Importance of the Family Unit
Another good family series is by S.M. Davis on www.biblepreaching.com Just scroll down and you should see it.


Also, I have skipped somethings which I will get to in another post on the home post on my stance on the biblical-ness of midwives and home-birthing and how faith plays apart of it and allowing the Lord to bless with as many children He see fit to. But, next thing before those issues I will write on the daughters in the home.


Contending for the Faith,

Karla